• The first reason for this is that I find these
interruptions, to be honost, quite annoying. Your
perfectionistic overcontroller distracts me from what I
am trying to say.
• The second reason is that I feel that letting the
overcontroller control you and me so much is that it
prevents us to have real contact. I feel that it is much
more important to attend to the emotional sides of
your problems, and not to whether every factual detail
is 100% correct. By letting the overcontroller rule our
sessions, I cannot contact little John and address his
needs. And when I cannot do that, the loneliness and
the emotional needs of this side of you cannot be
addressed, and if they cannot be addressed you will
not recover from your problems.
• So that is why I want you to try to stop letting the
overcontroller rule your behaviour, and give both
room to me and to the mode of little John, because
little John and I also have the right to take part in the
conversation.